I had trouble finding my way back into this blog ... it was confusing it with my personal blog ...but here were are.
The dates for our meetings will be as follows:
Tuesday mornings (9:00 - 10:45) in Richard Allen Chapel - childcare provided
Tuesday evenings (7:00 - 8:30 pm) in Richard Allen Chapel - childcare provided
Friday noon (12:00 - 1:30) in Richard Allen Chapel - please DO NOT bring your lunch. Eat before or after. NO childcare.
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That said, I have dived into my book "The Transcendent Self" and am listening again. I opened to the chapter on Detachment in the Second Half of Life. I resonated with the idea that we can come to a place where we think, "I know it sounds stupid but sometimes I wonder if my family even likes me after all I've done for them."
Now, my family would loudly rebel at hearing that - I know, deep inside, that they DO indeed love me. But sometimes as they go on with their lives, as they have private jokes in my presence, as they express their lives independent of me, I have wondered if I am even part of the family.
Reading this was comforting - to know this is part of the transformational experience of detaching from things, people, work and success. I am learning to relax into who I am. I cannot make anyone love me. I cannot make myself precious to them by becoming a slavish servant. But I can love myself, love life, laugh and play and be the kind of person they want to be with.
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"I am learning to relax into who I am. I cannot make anyone love me. I cannot make myself precious to them by becoming a slavish servant." Great words for me lately. This resonated with me not only in the area of my family life, but also in my role as a pastor's wife, with our church family. I still haven't learned that I don't have to say YES to everything they ask me to do. Sometimes it is ok to just BE. I'm not reading this book selection, so I'm thrilled that you are sharing your insights.
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